My husband should have played this song for me the day he told me his great news, but he was too excited to prepare so he just blurted out the good news!
“I just won a trip to Hawaii!” Ever skeptical of anything that’s too good to be true (a cliche that can serve you well in life), I questioned how this happened. He’d been playing a football pick sponsored by one of his company’s clients. In competition with over 700 other strategists, he had maintained 2nd place all season until the last week of football season when he pulled into first place. This type of playing takes strategy – picking not only the winners each week but the score margins as well. The grand prize was a trip for two – all expenses paid – to the Pro Bowl in Honolulu. Here was something I had never thought we’d do: we were going to Hawaii!
A Slap in the Face!
Then reality hit: two dogs, two kids, and an ailing mom. We lived in a different city than all our family members. How would we pull this off? Honestly, we came very close to passing on the trip because the logistics and planning involved in getting there seemed like more stress than it would have been worth. I voiced my concerns to my coworker who had been to Hawaii twice. She delivered a virtual smack across the face and said: “You are going. I promise it will be worth all the aggravation of getting there. Trust me.” So we persevered and finagled quite a few things to get dog care, kid care, and mom care.
As we were explaining to my mom who was in the early stages of dementia that she was going to stay with her other daughter for a while because we were going to Hawaii, she turned atypically pensive and said in a resigned, dreamy voice, “I always wanted to go to Hawaii.” Bam! Another slap in the face for me! I made a resolution then that I would not put off my dreams until someday because I never knew if someday would come. In fact, someday probably comes and goes every day and if we are not careful we miss it!
My mom had missed someday pretty much every day. Here’s a little about my mom and you’ll see why doubt and fear are crippling friends. My mom was an extreme introvert – but that should not stop you from enjoying life and taking a trip or trying new things. I think that was just one factor that played into her missing someday. She was also a waiter.
You may recall my story about my dad who was a compulsive gambler.
I have one childhood memory of my mom and it’s her sitting by our picture window in the living room, waiting and watching for my dad to come home. She watched the clock, watched television, and timed his arrival. If he was late, she’d get nervous and agitated. I feel the anxiety just writing this as I recall her there by the window.
When I became an adult I vowed that I would not be a waiter. I wouldn’t wait for anyone to make me happy. I wouldn’t wait for perfect circumstances to try something new. I wouldn’t wait for enough money to take a vacation. I would not be a waiter! So when I almost ditched my FREE vacation to Hawaii, I came dangerously close to becoming a waiter.
Phew! So thankful for my friend who kicked my butt. And she was right! The moment I stepped off that plane I said to my husband, “It was worth it!”
Still Buying Tickets!
We’ve gone back to Hawaii since then and have ticked off a few other things on our bucket list: The Grand Canyon, Spring Training in Phoenix, and a beach trip to the Gulf coast. Oh, ya, and buying a farm! That’s been a wild trip involving a big ride: a cross country move and starting a new life in Texas. Read more here:
Buy the ticket. Take the ride. Accept the offer. Spend the night. Take the chance. Someday is here.